Nick asks: “Good afternoon! My girlfriend left me a month before I was supposed to propose to her. Said that she fell out of love. We fought a lot and the last fight was in front of my dad. And he seems to be against it now and she doesn’t want to either. The relationship lasted two years. I am 23 years old and she is 21. For her sake, I went to live from one country to another and wanted a family and children with her. Can you give me a hint. Should I take her back or let her go and try to forget her. I really need her. I fell in love with her a lot. What does the Bible say about this?
Peace be with you, Nick.
A month before you propose doesn’t count. She can’t read your mind.
If she had proposed a month after you proposed, it would have given different weight to the situation that she didn’t want a family with you, and so she hasn’t received the proposal yet.
The fact that you need her and love her is a good thing. But why did you fight so much? There is a big difference between talking about love and really loving someone. There are people who are silent but show love through their actions. And there are those who talk about love – but their actions show something else.
It is not just a question of feelings, but of a life attitude – patience, benevolence, the ability to forgive.
This is what the Bible says about love:
3 And if I give away all my possessions and give my body to be burned, and have no love, it is of no profit to me.
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not boast, is not proud,
5 does not behave itself unscrupulously, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil,
6 He rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
7 He covers all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 But love will never cease, though the prophecies shall pass away, and the tongues shall be silenced, and knowledge shall be dissolved.
(1 Corinthians 13:3-8)