Answer Henry Koles
Andrew writes: “After 5 years of marriage, my wife accidentally told me that my wife cheated on me in the first month of our meetings. I knew I was not her first, but not when she was building a relationship with me. She was afraid to admit to me that I would leave her, I really would have done that then…
There is no point in leaving anymore, we have a child, and she has changed…
What hurts me now is that she was unfaithful in the beginning!
That she was lying the whole time!
What to do?
What is the right thing to do?
What is the Word of advice? Thank you!“
You know, often the Scriptures say that the Lord is the husband, the bridegroom, and His Church is the bride, the wife. And often in Scripture the Lord, in our human language, tries to convey the pain He feels when His church, when it turns away from Him, cheats on Him, like a wife cheats on her husband, while He has done so much good for her. So what did the Lord do when the Church backslid from Him? We read: “But you have committed adultery with many lovers – and yet come back to Me, says the Lord” (Jeremiah 3:1).
God teaches that we must forgive.
God understands your pain, He has experienced betrayal more than once, and yet He forgives the sinner. Why? Because God loves the sinner but hates sin. If a person is willing to repent, God accepts him as he is. Christ says, “Whoever comes to Me I will not cast out…” (John 6:37), and to the woman taken in adultery He did not pass the death sentence, but said: “I do not condemn you; go and sin no more” (John 8:11).
The husband has the right to give a letter of divorce to a wife who has cheated on him and download cheating app to prevent further. However, God says it is a right, not an obligation. I realize it’s easy to give advice when it doesn’t affect me personally, and I don’t even know what I would do in your situation. However, when I read the Bible, I understand that God calls for forgiveness of sin, that is, to forget and never think about the incident again.
Pray to God, asking him to give you the strength to forgive. Perhaps the harmony in your relationship will return not immediately, but gradually, but it is better to forgive than to break up, because the resentment and disappointment will remain for life. Forgiveness is for the strong and forgiving heals the pain of the soul, so may God bless your family and strengthen you all spiritually!